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11 Simple Ways to Save Money While Adopting

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It’s no question, there are many children who don’t just want families, but need them.  One of the main reasons people don’t adopt has to do with finances.  Here are eleven simple, yet powerful ways families can prepare for an adoption financially, and save money while adopting.

1.  Go Green:  Find new uses for old things and find ways to cut down on what you purchase.  You’d be surprised by how much you can do with less, and surprised by how much you love less clutter and chaos.  Some examples we discovered while adopting and still do today are using plastic shopping bags instead of buying trash bags.  You can cut down on cleaning supply expense by using natural cleaners around your home like lemon and vinegar, check it out, plus less chemicals in your home.

2.  Don’t buy clothes or toys for your kids:  Many people are looking for places to give their kids clothes to instead of dropping them at the dump.  Ask around, we have received bags and bags, many of the hand me downs are nicer than what we would have bought in stores to begin with.  Our kids are happier and more creative with less toys.  They get plenty at birthdays and Christmas.  You could also organize a toy exchange between friends so everyone can try something new without spending money.  Plus, the added benefit of allowing kids to be kids when wearing clothes and playing toys without stressing about how much they cost.  (Thrift stores and garage sales are also good options)

3.  Become more self sustaining (even if it’s just a little):  You don’t need to invest a lot, you can even use the seeds that are already in the food you eat such as bell pepper, cantaloupe and watermelon and plant them in pots.  Look into chickens, they are very easy to keep and cost effective.  You may find you like it and expand, but even being able to provide a little free food for your family helps!

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4.  Slowly improve your cooking skills, eat out less:  We could not afford to eat out while adopting, so I was cooking often.  I learned food pairings, optimal cooking times and procedures, slowly, with daily practice.  Our family now prefers to eat at home than to going out to a chaotic restaurant.  In fact, now we can pick our own food first, then cook it, which is both fun and so healthy.  I am thankful for these skills adopting ended up giving us.

5.  Get creative:  Can’t hire someone to build you that shelf?  Can’t afford to buy a pre-made chicken coop, or heck even the wood to build one?  Check out Craigslist free section, where we found free pallets, scrap wood, and fence posts and built our own chicken coop.  We only did it because we had to, we would have been too intimidated to try if we didn’t have to, but with each next nail in, the more it resembled a real chicken coop, look, we were doing it!  The kids love it when we are doing our own, hard work at our house, they love being with us, helping when we can and being outside as a family.  Plus, hey, free exercise, save on a gym membership.

6.  Diminish Distraction:  Our culture tells us to keep moving, never stop improving, and don’t slow down.  Break the mold and spend more time together as a family.  Cut the to-do list, minimize errands, avoid stores, be satisfied with less extra curricular for kids, who maybe would rather spend time together with a movie, a family project or playing a game than run all over town.  Remember: Happiness isn’t around that next corner, it’s right here, in the people in your life.

7.  Cultivate a feeling of gratitude within your family:  Your options at meal time are to say thank you, or go to time out.  Our children have the unfortunate situation where their parents spent much time with children who threw their arms in the air in thanks for two meals a day of rice and corn.  Picky eaters aren’t a thing here, and no second meals will be made.  When budgets are tight, it is a chance for palettes to expand, and learn the power of thankfulness for the food we have.

8.  Water over juice or other sugary drinks:  Free and healthier.

9.  Take the time to plan:  The time it takes me to meal plan; take out a cook book or food blog and write down my shopping list is about 5 minutes, just 5.  But the time and money it saves me in the store, the stress it prevents us at meal time are worth their weight in gold.  Planning makes a huge difference for budgeting, year plans, food plan, etc.

10.  Save money on preschool:  Find free library story times, find a local BSF, create your own play group with outings, find simple lessons to do online if you have toddlers at home.

11.  This is one of the most important things any family, especially an adoptive family can do that will change their lives;  Take a Dave Ramsey Financial Peace University class.  Sign up, pay for it, and go, shoot, sign up here. Taking the class doesn’t mean skimming the book, having have heard him on the radio or tv, it means taking the class.  The sooner the better.  Dave teaches you that each month counts, don’t wait.

There are very, very few things that have changed our lives as much as taking the Dave Ramsey FPU class.  We got out of debt, like right away, we started saving, and giving.  Giving like we had never been able to give before, and that has been one of the highlights of our life.  It strengthened our marriage, our parenting, our life, and we just have this feeling like, everything is going to be ok.  I make all my adoption friends take this class and they say after the first class meeting, they feel better, and like they can do it, they can adopt (amazing)  We give this class to our friends getting married, we love listening to stories of friends paying off HUGE debt and student loans in a time-frame they never thought possible.  Being able to make choices in their lives they weren’t able to prior, moms being able to stay home with their kids if they want to, when before they thought they just couldn’t.  Being in control of your life, blessing others: Dave Ramsey.  Find a local class here.

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This is our short list, what are some things you have done with your family to save money while adopting?  Please comment them below so we can grow our list.  Have you taken the Dave Ramsey class?  Share your experience below!  We would love to hear your story as well.

 

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Andrew and Pie // 33

Picking up the next apple sitting by  the heap of skin bits, “Keep going,” I thought, “It’s his thing.”

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And I peeled one more apple, and before I knew it, 8 naked apples, sat ready to be sliced for a pie.  A pie for a man whose birthday it was, a man who doesn’t like cake–but pies.  So with the pin and the flour and the piles of red speckled apple skins that toddler boy hands carried in fists down to the chickens who greeted their snack, “Mama, they liked them!” they grinned on arriving back into the kitchen.  ”And they said they like my shoes,” one added.

Chickens who care about toddler fashion, pretty good.

He and Maria were out on some arbitrary mission, she told me she would not share the secret as she almost burst with pride at the idea of being the distractor, as I slid the pie brimming with sliced and spiced apples into the oven.

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Something is cooking,” the boys returned minutes later, breathless, looking around for the smells coming from the oven.   Cinnamon and warm apples filling our home, interrupting their play, for a moment.

“Mama, do you want to be this monster truck?”

“That’s the one,” as we waited for the beeper, and the other two returned home.

Maria and Andrew smiled as they walked in, smelling and we bundled for the beach, hopping in the car.

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Cute tourist families charged the waves, capturing each moment with their phones as we bundled up in our warmest, even our Russians, whose blood now fits into Southern California temperament.

We sliced and ate, we watched the waves, shining in gold.

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When the boys finished, they scampered off to someone’s deserted beach day’s hard work, shadowed from the sun almost set.  Sloping sand castles becoming roads under toddler construction vehicles, sound effects of excavators escaping rounded cheeks, their team of two demolishing, sand deflated and flush, but ready for the construction workers the next day will bring.

They worked, until they saw Andrew was done.

Even on his birthday, it was him giving love to all of us.  Cause we all can’t get enough of this guy, who is now 33 years old.  (Oldie)  Toddler arms, stretched up and ready will be met, lips ready for kisses will find his.  Tears will be caught by his hand.

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Sometimes if I feel worried about my kids growing older and heading out into the world, I think, but wait–they have Andrew as their Dad.  He doesn’t miss chances to invest in them, his priorities are people, his virtues are noble, and I see him shaping them already.  He is humble, and probably wouldn’t even want me writing all this, but it’s true.  He is a man who loves God and desires to learn from Him, wise enough to seek out a manner of living different to what we would think, a man who loves people and has no problem sacrificing for them.  He loves his family, genuinely with his time and actions.  His heart and smile.

He brings us all peace and joy.

And guess what…it’s his birthday!

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All cause he loves us so good.

 

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After stomping the beach and enjoying sandy pie, we walked down to Pizza Port, where someone complimented Finley on his shoes.  Finley looked at me, “Mama…I like her.”

“Mama…I love you all up!”

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Dancing to the Wiggles.

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//Funny Story: For the first time, we saw Maria with an attitude, and it was the best moment ever.  Ever.  Fleeting, but amazing.

It started with Andrew, “Singing a Frozen Song.”  Frozen…every parent has a silent tear when we hear those songs one more time.

So, he sang, “Let it snow….let it snow, can’t hug me back anymooooore.  The snow always bothers me every day.”

And Maria whipped her head around and stared at him, “That’s not how it goes,” she was laughing, jovial.

“Yes it is,” he retorted.  ”Let it snoooooooow….LET IT SNOOOOW.”

A look of bewildered shock hung on her lips, “No…” was all she could muster, thinking of all the times she had sung it to him, countless, how could he not know the one song second to the gospel, look on her face.  Which only egged him on.

So, with eyes closed now, belting, “Can’t HOLD MY CAT ANYMORE!  Let it snow”

Eyebrows down, smile gone, I held back my laugh, “Papa, you could never  be sinning on stage,” she told him, low, serious.

“I can’t be sinning on stage?” he asked as we cracked up.

When she found out he was joking, it was suddenly the second best day of her life, “Daddy, I was SO WORRIED!”

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Happy Birthday Andrew.  You make life beautiful because you are in the world.

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Also, thanks for being the best poop smith for the cloth diapers, that does not go unnoticed ;)

 

xoxo

Is there something special you make for your person on their birthday other than cake?  How’s the Frozen epidemic in your house?  Does anyone want me to share the recipe for the pie crust, it’s wonderful.

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Praising God

Praising God.   Today’s email:

“Dear Andrew & Amy,

My name is Emily and I am the Philippine Matching Counselor at Children of All Nations.

I wanted to let you know that we heard from ICAB and they have informed us that Jonalyn has been reunited with her paternal aunt and they have closed her case for adoption.

I just thought you may want to know the final outcome of this case. If you have any further questions please don’t hesitate to let me know.”

 

Sweet girl is home, praising God and all He has done for her. I hope she stomped home in her light-up shoes

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“Be like the bird who, pausing in her flight awhile on boughs too slight, feels them give way beneath her, and yet sings, knowing she hath wings.”

{Victor Hugo}

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